I have always found it interesting that statistically speaking, despite the fact that they have a much higher financial earning power than Men in Africa majority of which are steeped in poverty, Western Men have higher rates of suicide. It wasn’t until I stumbled upon the so called “Manosphere” group/cult on the Internet, that’s when I identified the main issue these western men have. There are so called gurus that promote for better (but mostly for worse) the idea of Isolating yourself as a man from the rest of society & women all in the name of “self improvement”. They give themselves cringy titles like being an “Alpha males” / “Sigma Males” etc…
Most of these so called “gurus” or experts that have a presence & large following on Social Media push their narratives & prey on men that are naturally socially awkward or that are “Incels”, which happen to be men that are sexually frustrated because they don’t have the skills to get with & have healthy relationships with neither women nor men in general. Instead.. these men get high off of the idea of ignoring women & society in general while they lock themselves up in their homes playing videos games & masturbating endlessly to porn.
I can’t speak on Africa in general, but in my country, us as a people we thrive off of openly communicating with each other. the most beautiful thing about my country is that my people are some of the friendliest people on earth. You can strike up a wholesome conversation with literally a random stranger anywhere & everywhere. If you do so, you are guaranteed to walk away with a solution to your problem or a piece of helpful information that can help you deal with any mental issues you might be dealing with. This is due to the fact that for better or worse, the majority of people have a collective mindset of “we are all in this fucked up situation together so we might as well help each other by talking it out”.
While I do not condone excessive drinking, the truth is that a Lot of Men in my country are heavy alcohol drinkers but most of them usually drink with an objective in mind. For example, if a man has some marital issues that he can’t seem to be able to solve alone, instead of hanging himself or shooting up a school, all he has to do is go to the bar & buy a beer & sit next to another man & just start talking… eventually both men will talk about the problems they each are facing in their lives. 9/10 out of the times, they both will leave the bar with either a solution to their problems, or they will leave knowing that their problems are far less problematic than the other man’s problems.
I’m not saying that our ways here in Africa of dealing with certain mental issues are superior to those in the western world, but I’m just speaking on how we deal with our own since the majority of us do not have access to therapists. If the Western world feels as if us Africans have nothing productive to offer them, my hope is that this blog entry can offer them something to work with. However, I have to warn them not to become alcoholics. Find someone or some groups of people you can talk to is my message to all those who are stressed out and or depressed whether you are a man or woman.
Thanks for reading, please be safe out there!
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